I have never been a big fan of Conan O’Brien. I don’t dislike him. I think he is a pretty funny guy. I just didn’t watch his late night show regularly before or after he got The Tonight Show gig two and half years ago. However, two years ago I got sucked into the coverage of the battle between NBC, Jay Leno and Conan.
I really felt for Conan and what happened to him after being “promised” and “given” the job of hosting The Tonight Show. I recognize that he wasn’t getting fabulous ratings over the seven months he held that position, much of which was his responsibility. However, it was still hard to watch him have to decide what to do given the situation, and ultimately choose to say goodbye to his dream.
I recorded his last show on Friday, January 22, 2010 on DVR and watched it the next morning. I thought it was an awesome hour of television and especially resonated with something Conan said, during a rare moment of seriousness, to his fans and everyone watching:
Please do not be cynical. I hate cynicism, it doesn’t lead anywhere.
Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get.
But if you work really hard and you’re kind, amazing things will happen.
I’m telling you, amazing things will happen. I’m telling you, it’s just true!
~ Conan O’Brien
I couldn’t agree more.
Though I am guilty of having been cynical at times in my life, especially during our five year struggle with secondary infertility and pregnancy loss (including the death of our baby girl, Molly), most of the time I try to be optimistic. What we went through during those five years was devastating, but I also grew a lot and I learned so much about myself, others, life and love.
I will never get over the loss of our three angel babies, and especially our daughter Molly. However, I am proud of how Bob, Sean and I continued to make the best of our situation and live our lives the best we could during that time. It is still surreal to me to think about the past few years in our life and to digest that our “rainbow baby” Abigail is two years old now. She is truly amazing!
I hope that you find some hope and inspiration, as I do, in Conan’s thoughts on not always getting what we expect or want, but trusting that if we try our best and treat others well, we can still have a wonderful life!
Amazing things can happen.
Amazing things do happen.
Amazing things will happen!
Kathy Benson is Exhale’s Contributing Editor. Kathy is a Domestic Engineer with three children (two here and one in Heaven) trying to live mindfully and find joy in the journey after dealing with secondary infertility and pregnancy loss for over five years. She blogs at Bereaved and Blessed and you can follow her on Twitter @BereavedBlessed